3 Assumptions That Keep You From Getting The Girlfriend You Want
If guys are raised within a loving household, they’re taught to behave in a certain manner that is consistent with specific belief systems. And as they age, those beliefs often morph and take on a new persona based more on personal opinion and experience.
Unfortunately, people often misconstrue the most obvious signs and absorb misconceptions regarding the needs and desires of the opposite sex. This can lead to frustration, social withdrawal, and a stagnant love life.
Men tend to make three major incorrect assumptions regarding attraction when it comes to females. Let’s examine each one.
Assumption #1: Women Are Obsessed With Hot Guys
Let’s face it, men like to look. Women do, too, but they’re far less visual than males.
That’s not saying they don’t appreciate a masculine form or a typical hot gym body. But when it comes down to brass tacks, women are far more concerned and drawn to a man’s personality than his appearance.
So does that mean you should quit the gym, curl up in a ball on the couch and watch Ellen everyday?
Are you serious?
Stay in the gym. Work on yourself… for yourself. It won’t necessarily guarantee a date, but neither will atrophy and packing on 40 pounds.
Working on yourself will, however, increase your confidence. And that’s a major secret to luring the ladies.
Of course, that’s not the only thing they expect from you. Women love guys who are polite, respectful, charming, assertive, flirty without being creepy, and appropriately funny. These are learned traits and not something that just pops into place overnight. To fast track your way to becoming the guy women want, a program like the Girlfriend System is a huge help.
Work on gaining enough confidence to build those personality traits and you’ll be ahead of the game.
Assumption #2: Women Will Automatically Date You If You’re Nice
You should be nice. Period. There’s really no way around that.
Respect is the cornerstone of any lasting relationship. But it doesn’t factor into what women look for in a date or mate because, get this, they simply expect it.
The bare bones truth is that you will not get a date just because you’re a nice guy. Sorry, but she’s been told that before.
In her mind nice guys may be boring, stagnant, or live with mommy. There are no guarantees she’ll be attracted to you just because you’re nice.
True attraction comes from how you act and look upfront. Being bold, funny, actively engaging, and being physically attractive all play more of a part in initial attraction.
Of course, keep some distance at first because being too nice can come off as passive and needy. And that’s a complete turn off.
You need to have something going for you that’s going to spark her interest. That’s the point of attraction. The good man or nice routine is important for keeping her. But if you can’t manage to hook her, you’ll never have her on your plate.
Assumption #3: Women Embrace Needy And Nurturing Guys
Your intended honey may be a mom, artist, teacher, or nurse. But that doesn’t mean that she wants to date needy or overly nurturing people. This can extend to an opposites attract situation.
That doesn’t mean to put your douche cap on if you happen to find a hot mom or teacher. But you do need to be strong, confident, and independent.
Being wimpy, needy, insecure, or generally on her heels 24/7 gives her no time to miss you or want you in her life. She probably has enough of those people in her workplace, friend circle, or even in her own household. It’s your job to show her what she’s been missing by being hot, sexy, and attentive without going overboard. Pity does not equate to p – love.
If you change the way you see yourself, you can change the way you see relationships.
Sure, assumptions stick. But when they’re wrong, they need to be replaced by workable options.
Focus on building your own confidence and developing the special traits that women really want in a man. Remember: the definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over again while expecting different results.
Change your view, build your personality skill set, and you’ll never be dateless again.